Letter - Create a culture of complimentsThe estimate of one’s self comes in large measure by feedback from those around us. I’d suggest that we create a culture of compliments.
To the editor:
The Apostle Paul admonishes us in the 12th chapter of Romans to have an honest estimate of ourselves.
My wife mentioned an ad she had seen on TV that observed that six out of 10 young women quit doing things that they love out of fear that their physical appearance isn’t good enough. In other words, poor body images stop young women from being what they really want to be.
The estimate of one’s self comes in large measure by feedback from those around us. I’d suggest that we create a culture of compliments. If she has pretty eyes or lovely hands, tell her so. If her hair is beautiful today, don’t let her get away without letting her know. Perhaps her dress is just smashing. She needs to hear about it. Our young friend would love to hear that you noticed her fine complexion or winning smile. Does she have ankles made for high heels? She may never have thought about it but your observation could give her a new look. These are specific compliments.
General compliments inevitably bring smiles and happiness. Something as simple as, “You are a very pretty girl!” will warm the heart and boost the self esteem. When someone else notices our good qualities, it’s a strong reinforcement to our ego.
Let’s lend our girls a hand by letting them know how beautiful they are. Our feedback will help them have that honest estimate of themselves. Its the least we can do for all the happiness and magic they bring to our world.