Are your parents ready for assisted living?
I get asked this question all the time: How do you know when it is time for your parents to move?
Making this decision can be difficult for the whole family and the answer to this question is different for every family.
Moving to an assisted living facility can be as hard for the children as it is for the parents. We are accustomed to seeing our parents provide us with help and support. It is difficult for us to see them as vulnerable and needing help of their own.
It can be difficult for children to admit that their parents need assisted living, especially if they live farther away and only see them once or twice a year.
Here are some questions to help determine if your parents are ready for assisted living:
--Do they tell you what they eat? Is there spoiled food in the refrigerator?
--Do they cover up bruises from a fall? Are they unsteady when they walk?
--Are their clothes clean? Is the house clean?
--Do they talk about hearing strange noises at night? Do they get up frequently at night?
--Are the yard and pets taken care of?
--Do they take their medications correctly?
--How do they look?
--Have they stopped doing activities they used to do? Do they visit friends? Have coffee with neighbors? Go to church?
--How is their driving?
--Are they isolated?
--How are their cognitive skills? Are they forgetting things more often?
--How is their short term memory? Are they confused or afraid?
It's important for adult children to recognize when parents need help.
Children have a responsibility to ensure their parents are taken care of in a safe, comfortable and respective environment.
Once you have made the decision that it may be time to at least look at assisted living, check out options around their area. Find out about pricing and what is included.
For Douglas County, I have a senior housing resource list that has all the places listed and their contact numbers. Call me and we can talk about options and what may be best for your parents.
Call me at (320) 762-3047 on this and other topics related to your parents.